
(btw I am Christian, but want to be sure all employees have a good work environment, regardless of my personal beliefs)
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This a subject not discussed in business administration classes. How does an office deal with the death of a co-worker? As a manager, how do you handle the grief yourself and the grief of others at the same time? Recently, this very situation has happened in my office. I was told by the President about the passing of a 46 year old co-worker. I gasped so loud I think others heard me through my closed door. My boss was having such a hard time getting the words out, that I thought I was being fired. I was shocked to say the least. The President advised he was going to advise a few other people, and then I needed to arrange an all staff office meeting. I could not even think, let alone, arrange a meeting. I finally gathered my thoughts and arranged a meeting for an hour later. In that hour, I had to confine my feelings and emotions until everyone was told. Hard to do, but since I was in shock, I just denied what I had heard.
The President made the announcement at the meeting. Everyone was in shock; some started crying instantly, and while others where just in a daze. As a manager and professional, somehow, I had to reach down deep and find the strength to deal with my own sorrow, while at the same time deal with the sorrow of everyone else. Since I had an hour head start on dealing with the sad news, I probably had an advantage in helping others deal with the news. After the meeting, I gathered myself enough to be able to walk around the office and check on people. I know they were not “okay” but I asked anyway. Some employees wanted to talk about it; while others retreated to their cubicle and wanted to be alone. Each person dealt with the grief in their own way. I just kept watch. I decided an email to an individual might be more appropriate than a face to face discussion for those who wanted to be left alone. Not much work got done, understandably so.
On the second day, the weight of the sadness was still pretty heavy, but employees were more open to talking. On the third day, the office mood was still pretty heavy, but I noticed people started to coming to terms with the death, and were more at peace. It was still hard to walk by his office and see his family portraits, plaques, paintings, and all the individual items. I did not deem it appropriate to immediately clean out the office, but it will have to be done eventually.
We decided to have a lunch in his honor. Since there are no services, per his wishes, we had our own office tribute to him. We decided to have a slide show to display fun pictures of him during lunch. Surprisingly, gathering all the pictures for the slide show was very therapeutic. All the fun times, smiles, and laughs helped me come to terms and accept his sudden death. The lunch memorial gave some closure to staff and hopefully some peace. We told different stories of fun times with Glenn. We laughed, and we cried. It was good for everyone.
We are creating a scrapbook of all the pictures and stories to present to his family.
When I think I have experienced the hardest point in my career, I am hit with a new level of difficulty.